This Is Just To Say

This Is Just To Say

Happy Saturday!

I hope you are well! I’ve had a difficult week.

We went to a funeral on Tuesday, and I’ve been unwell since Thursday.

Quick Update

Monday and Wednesday, I was productive. I worked on my subscribers’ list funnel. I’ve gotten help with it, but no one knows why it’s not working. A ticket has been submitted. In the meantime, starting over from scratch might be best, and see if a second try will work.

I apologize for not keeping up with my blog comments. I will catch up as soon as I am able.

The Challenge

Anytime I am unwell, I tend to view it as lost time. I feel like I’ve gotten behind.

This time, instead, I’m looking forward to getting started again.

These pauses happen, so there is no need to get discouraged about it.

Conclusion

What do you think? Do you have a way that you encourage yourself to move forward after a setback?

This is a big challenge for me, so I’d appreciate your comments.

Here’s looking forward to a wonderful week!

Ciao for now,

Nakina

43 thoughts on “This Is Just To Say”

  1. Thank you for being honest. I’ve had a challenging week too. I always go with slow progress is still progress. You were still able to reach out to your readers, you still show up despite having a difficult week. The key is to not give up and keep going. We can do this!!

  2. Hi Nakina, sorry to hear you have been unwell, I hope you feel better now.

    In answer to your question, I tend to sulk for a bit…. but then I suddenly think, “enough of that Simmsy, get off your arse and back to work”

    More recently though it has been a lot easier, I spent a week of failures trying to sort our a process flow on my email sequence, but because I have a very clear goal, (rebuild a ruin) in a very short time (1 year) and I have a specific need (to raise 40k) I find there is no time for sulking, I just need to keep going
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    1. Wow, Kate! Maybe I should be less a slave to the goals on my calendar and take time to grieve and heal. In general, I think I need to do better about having down time to just be at peace. I’m not sure how to do that. I’m very go-go-go… I’m squeezing working on my business into little pockets of time. I need to set aside down time as well. Thank you for this insight for this present grieving time and also for the future.

  3. Hello – I am so sorry for your difficult week! I appreciate that you are choosing to look ahead and not dwell on the hard times of the recent past. Fresh Starts are so important and I encourage you the continue on your important ventures. Cheers to a better week, friend!

    1. Thanks, Ernie! I am looking forward to a brighter week – quite literally! It’s going to warm up a bit here in north Texas and the sun might even shine! Your encouragement is so helpful and much appreciated. Cheers to next week!

  4. Life certainly has its challenges. In answer to your question, I have my “why” written down and I view it as part of my daily routine. It’s what pulls me through both personal and business challenges. You go girl!
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    1. Thanks, Robert! I know my why and I’ve created a vision board of what will be happening when I’ve succeeded, but I don’t have it written and posted where I can read it. I will do that!

  5. Hi Nakina

    You are right we need to stay positive and things will fall into place.

    Set backs are just that…. I call them side steps! 😊

    We are all on our own pace

    Sandy

    1. Oh, I remember you said that now! Side steps… The phrase makes me think of a dance. Side steps are just a part of the dance, so side steps in my business wouldn’t be such an obstacle if viewed them in this way. Love it! I’ve written this down, too! Thanks, Sandy!

  6. Hi Nakina,
    Sorry, you have had a difficult week. I agree with Kate’s comment above. When we are unwell, it may be a way of telling us to take a break.

    I like the work you have already done. I like the layout & sidebar with the template you’ve chosen. I’ve just started a blog and I have not yet added any images or lead magnets on the page.

    So you’re ahead of me!

    Enjoy where you are right now and all that you’ve accomplished.

  7. Keep moving forward and you will get to your end result. I printed off a little saying and I keep it next to me, “When You Feel Like Quitting Think About Why You Started”. You’ve got this. Look forward to following your post.

    1. Thanks, Jon! I wrote your saying down. The more I think about it, the more helpful it becomes. If I focus on this saying, I think it will help me to move forward. I might be odd, but when I think about my big why that I eventually want to happen, I feel daunted and overwhelmed. It feels like it’s all up to me to make it happen. It’s not encouraging. But if I think about why I began, it is encouraging. Thanks for that! Lol! It is a very subtle difference, isn’t it! Super helpful though!

  8. Hi Nakina, my condolences. I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard sometimes to stay motivated and keep going. Having an accountability buddy can be really helpful to stay on track. Whenever I need a little motivation or encouragement, I watch Dean’s or Sophie’s motivational videos in the certified partner’s group. Knowing that at one point, they were where I am now, and they are successful gives me the hope to keep going.

    1. Thank you for your kind condolences, Alison. That’s good advice also! Listening to a recording from the team can boost my spirits and clear my mind. I think I should make that just a part of my routine. Maybe when I’m emptying the dishwasher and feeding my dog. Just a bit of connection to other like-minded people before I get started with my day would be very helpful. I know I lean heavily on their confidence and belief in me! It’s so nice to have them tell me success is not a matter of luck but of hard work. I can do that! I’ll definitely listen to them more often.

  9. Hello Nakina,
    So sorry for your loss and your illness. It’s good that you are looking forward to a fresh start, though. Take this down time to refresh and heal. Then you will be ready to get going on your fresh start. I just have to focus on my WHY to keep myself motivated. Best of luck!
    Kelli

    1. Thank you for your kind words. I had to take a day off from my regular job this week. I sat outside with some hot tea bundled in my gigantic terry cloth robe and hat and listened to the birds sing. Such time works wonders for me! It was a healing time. Thank you for your well wishes!

  10. As the Desiderata says, “above and beyond a total reproach be kind to yourself”. Every now and then our energy will sag it’s a part of life that we need to accept and work with.

    1. Thanks, Anthony! I had not read the Desiderata. It is a poem I need to learn.

      You’ve summed up the solution I need in just ten words. Stop reproaching myself and be kind to me.

      I’m taking this deeply into my heart. Acceptance of me and kindness to me the way I am…

      Thank you for sharing!

  11. Hi Nakina, I’m so sorry you’ve had such a challenging week. I know this can make you feel behind and certainly discouraged… I know that’s how I have felt when I have gone through something similar. I’m in a similar boat as you.. trying to launch an online business, and working diligently to get it up and running. This past Christmas, I had an unusual amount of people in town staying with me for the holidays. Although I didn’t experience a sickness, this set me back about 3 weeks. It was so hard to get my momentum back after the holidays, and I entered the new year a little defeated. I know it’s not the same, but I can relate. I commend you for your honesty and transparency. The tables will turn and you’ll be back at it in no time!

    1. Yes, momentum! Different cause, but definitely the same issue. I do so much better when I have momentum behind me. I once decided I would be kind to myself by exercising – getting my 10,000 steps each day for a year. Each day, I proudly gave myself a sticker for meeting my goal. I only missed one day because I couldn’t break that momentum. Of course, the year ended, and I no longer exercise. I’m all about momentum.

      Perhaps, I should find a way to build momentum in a roundabout way. I keep track of my sick days where I keep track of my business stats. I just highlight them in yellow.

      What if I give a legitimate sick day, documented, the same weight as a day focused on moving my business forward. Simply documenting what happened, focus on getting better, and continue the next day.

      I could just trick the way I think about a sick day. Instead of seeing it as an interruption, just imagine it as part of the process…

      Thanks for your insight, Lauren!

  12. Hi Nakina, I am sending my condolences to you, I am sorry to read that. My dad passed only 3 weeks ago so I understand.
    I am also sorry to read that you have been unwell. Be gentle with yourself through this time.
    I love your outlook on your downtime, that you are looking forward to getting started again, picking up where you left off as opposed to before where you would see it as lost time and getting behind which only leaves us feeling anxious.
    So great mindset move….well done!
    To offer a thought or two on finding encouragement within yourself, you pinpointed it when you said this time you are looking forward – there is your starting point.
    Revisiting your why, feeling and bringing that to the forefront again will be very beneficial too.
    When you feel ready you can pick up where you left off and re-look at your funnel, resolving the bump you have encountered with it.
    I hope you are well again soon and you remain gentle with yourself.
    I look forward to reading your next post 🙂 and wish you a much better week ahead.
    Karen Elissabeth recently posted…Consistency…My Profile

    1. Karen, thank you so much for your condolences. I’m very sorry to hear of your dad passing.

      Be gentle with myself, look forward, and focus on why I’m working on my business. I’m making notes as I read the kind comments on today’s blog. So, in short, don’t even think about having to pause for a bit.

      What surprises me most is the call to be gentle with myself. I put a lot of pressure on myself – as if that would make me more productive! I’ve known this is a problem but had no idea how to stop it. Being gentle with myself might be key.

      I appreciate your insight! Thank you!

  13. Nakina, thank you for being so open and honest about this. Do you know what I think? it’s okay it doesn’t matter. Life happens regarding our health, financial situations, our families health etc. and this may mean that we get some downtime on our business. And that’s okay because it’s not a race there’s no point building a business if you’re not well or not feeling right. So I wouldn’t get too worried about being behind in fact behind what? You’re still on the same path you’re still going to the same destination you still have the same goals and you still have the same help and people around you. So I will just say when you’re ready, just carry on. You’re doing really well and I don’t think you should feel despondent. Just keep going. All the best, thanks, Atif

  14. Hi Nakina,
    I hope you get well soon 🙂
    I understand about health issues and life setting us back, I deal with it too.
    One of the most important things for me is to never stop believing that my journey WILL BE SUCCESSFUL!
    I trust that as long as I believe it, and work toward it, when I can, I will get there!
    So will you!
    One thing that helps immensely is I spend 15 minutes before I start the day to listen to a teaching that empowers my mind and reminds me that what I think will become a reality! Here it is if you are interested 🙂
    https://youtu.be/nKyL-3Zfa00?si=4rJwrHEAWozJViIs
    Denny

    1. Thanks, Denny! I did watch that video. I’m a fan of The Meditations by Marcus Aurelius myself. The quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our lives.

      I have a specific way I’m trying to grow in this. It will probably sound very silly at first, so please bear with me.

      I like to watch fictional shows with detectives or forensic scientists solving crimes. I get great satisfaction from “catching the bad guys!”

      The problem is, the shows themselves are pretty upsetting. There’s stuff there I don’t need to know about or imagine. I know if I stopped watching these shows, my outlook would become so much brighter and more optimistic.
      But, then, I’ll feel down and watch one of them to get that feeling of satisfaction again.

      It’s a silly example, but I’m trying to find a way to be satisfied just by the good things in life. To focus on the stuff that’s good and think about it.
      And, I know it would proportionately empower me to do better work in my business. It would transform my attitude and belief in what’s possible.

      Any tips on what to replace CSI or Law and Order with? Not necessarily TV but something else?

  15. Hi Nakina,
    By these days, I know what you mean by setbacks. My weekends are loaded as I have to empty my mother’s appartment who is fighting with alzheimer desease. Each time I come back home after this, I feel disturbed emotionally. There are so many souvenirs in there! Sunday nights are marked with the Sunday blues.
    To overcome these feelings, I look at my passions. Finding time for my affiliate marketing business and doing the tasks that inevitably have fallen behind help greatly. Listening to Dean Holland encouragements and motivational talk is like a cure.
    Martin
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    1. Oh, that is so hard Martin! I can see how it would be very hard to focus on your business on Sunday night. But you focus on your passion rather than the chore aspect of the tasks.
      I can get so overwhelmed when my to do list seems to get too big to handle.
      But, focus on passion and it’ll get done.
      I’ll work on changing my mindset in that way.
      Best wishes to you in this hard time. May you find healing!

  16. Hi Nakina,

    Hope you are feeling better now.

    If you view this as a business you are going to focus on for at least the next 5 to 10 years or longer, then in the grand scheme of things, one week of downtime is not a big deal.

    And it seems like you did make some progress after all, like writing this blog post.

    Even submitting a support ticket is considered progress because you are taking an active step to solve your technical problems.

  17. Hope you get better soon Nakina.
    When I am not feeling productive I like to listen to Deans recording. He has an optimistic tone of voice. Then I recharge my batteries and I am ready to go.
    I also use a technique recommended by Mel Robbins, in her 5 Second Rule book. Count backwards 5-4-3-2-1 and start doing the task you are supposed to do.
    Ok, sometimes I have to repeat that 3 times, but it works 🙂
    All the best.
    Tom

    1. Oh, thanks Tom!
      I’m listening to The Iceberg Effect in the background while I respond to comments. He believes in me, and it helps to remind me by hearing his cheery voice.

      It might sound strange, but I’m not much of a post-er. I don’t like to post anything on Facebook. I don’t do any social media. I find it kind of scary to leave comments! Of course, there’s nothing to be shy about and I just need to build my confidence by responding and leaving comments.

      I read your post about the 5-4-3-2-1 method. It’s very empowering, but I’ve felt pretty powerless when I don’t act when I get to “1.”
      I’ll just repeat! What a simple solution! Thank you for that!

  18. Hi Nakina
    Sorry to hear you have been unwell and after a funeral too.
    Life gets in the way sometimes.
    At times like this any progress, no matter how small, is still progress.
    Take care and be kind to yourself.
    Neal

  19. Nakina,

    It is great to see you are shifting your mindset to look at things in a more positive light. These shifts may seem like a small thing but the saying goes, “change your mind, change your life”.
    As for what keeps me motivate even in down days is my “WHY”. My why is so strong it propels me forward even in bad days and weeks. I certainly have more than my share of those.
    The second thing that helps me is to continually count my blessings. It is hard to be down when your counting your blessings and meditating on them. No matter what life throughs at us, if we look deep enough we can find something good in all situation.

    Get well and keep moving forward. You got this!!!
    CJ

    1. Thank you, CJ! I’m working on reevaluating my why. I think it’s not quite what it needs to be. I know the consequences of what will happen when we are successful, but “the stuff” isn’t driving me. I want more time with my family, but perhaps that’s too vague. I’m looking into that. There have been a few times in my life when desire moved me forward no matter the obstacles; I need to find that now.
      I will start writing down my blessings, especially from my particular day before I rest at night.
      That is great advice! Thank you!

  20. I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. I think you are doing great! Life happens, and I think that is why Dean reminds us often to move at our own pace and just keep moving forward. The keep moving forward part is what gets us to accomplish great things!

    1. Thank you, Alison. Moving forward is progress. I am such a perfectionist and demanding of myself that it’s hard to accept.
      I want to do everything good I can think to do in my business and I want it to be implemented yesterday! LOL!
      It’s the journey wherein lies the value, right?
      Thanks for your kind reminder 🙂

  21. Hi Nakina,

    I’m sorry for your loss and that this week has been difficult for you both emotionally and physically. I hope you feel better soon!

    I think the hardest thing can be gaining momentum back. These last two weeks I have struggled gaining momentum back. Momentum is everything.

    What I have learned is that the first thing I need to do is take a step back and reassess the situation. I have to ask myself what might have caused this loss of momentum and reflect on any changes I can make in my routine or mindset.

    Then, I start to figure out exactly what tactics I need to set in order to reach my goals, and the goals must be achievable. I start with small, actionable tasks that will help build positive momentum. I try to celebrate every small win along the way – which is not always easy to do.

    Something that has helped me is that I started an accountability group and it has been very motivating and supportive.

    But most importantly, I need to try and be kind to myself throughout the process; regaining momentum takes time and effort.

    In your case, it seems pretty understandable that you are struggling a bit, but it sounds like you have the right mindset to get back on the horse so to speak.

    1. Thank you for the advice! The hardest part for me is the kindness bit. Funny enough, that’s the thing so many people have commented I need to implement – I need to be kind to myself!
      I guess when I step back and reassess my goals I should consider myself the way I would a student, and not put too much on my plate.
      And then encourage me by recognizing those wins along the way. I’ve started writing down my wins for the day.
      And I should be kind daily rather than thinking I’ve done that and check it off my list. Lol!
      I really appreciate your heartfelt advice!

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